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Motivation

Equestrians: Schooling – how can we stay motivated?

By | Coaching and Mentoring, Sports coaching

Where:  Zoom chat

When: Monday 22nd February 2021, 7pm

Join us to get with some tips on how to regain your mojo for schooling

  • Are you feeling aimless in your schooling?
  • Always thinking of reasons to go and hack or do something other than ride in the school?
  • Feeling guilty that you aren’t doing more in lockdown?
  • Wondering if keeping horses is just about mud and mucking out?

If so, the good news is…You are not alone!

First things first: this session is FREE!  – £0.00

We are all having a tough time and I’ve had lots of people supporting me, so I’m trying to ‘pay this forward’.

Second, it isn’t a lecture!

Grab a coffee/wine/gin/cookies/chips/chocolate and join us to share your tips on how to keep schooling interesting when we have so little that we can plan on doing with our horses at the moment.

HOW DO YOU BOOK?

Please register by e-mailing [email protected].  I’ll send you a link, but please don’t share it with anyone: first come first served and I’m limiting places to 15 so that we can have a useful conversation.  Thank you.

Getting ‘STUFF’ done

By | Education, Leadership Toolbox

There are a few recurring themes when I’m coaching people.  One of those is about ‘Time Management’.  We could get into discussions on the practicalities (lists, urgent vs important).  We could argue that time is not something that can be actively managed – it has to be about what we do within the confines of that dimension. We could get into philosophical conversations about the meaning of life, work and ultimate purpose.  Lets leave all that for another day.

I have been reading a neat little book by Andy Buck about leadership in education and he made mention of this video.  It’s only about 5 minutes, (so it is a good investment in time, and allows us one last shot at procrastinating!)

Enjoy it…

SPACE – Definitely not the final frontier for learning

By | Coaching and Mentoring, Education, Leadership Toolbox, Personal Development

Space – (Definitely NOT the final frontier for learning!)

 

Yesterday I attended an interesting conference on Critical Leadership.  In just a short space of time we touched on many topics which challenge us as leaders.  One of the themes centred on how we keep formal learning going in our day-to-day jobs once we return from the buzz of workshops.  This is a topic very close to my heart.

Four points stick in my mind as crucial for continued learning:

–        We need to open spaces for conversation

–        We need to listen and empower

–        We need to foster constant curiosity

–        We need to enable conversations

If I could have created a word cloud from the speakers yesterday morning, I think that SPACE would have featured in the centre in huge letters.  It’s something that we just don’t really have in our busy lives, busy jobs and busy careers.  Yet how can we see what is happening if we don’t make a space to understand what is around us?  How can we start to get these four points into action if we don’t have ‘space’?

Another phrase which would have being pretty obvious in the word cloud would have been CRITICAL FRIEND. (And underneath that I would have posted ‘constructive challenge).

This is all great metaphorical chat, but what do I mean in practical terms?  OK, please stay with me on this…..

Creating a SPACE, means we can give valuable time to reflection.

Reflection is an increasingly well accepted and understood ‘tool’ for deep learning. Taking the time to really think about our experiences means that we can gain new and useful perspectives.  When we reflect, we can create some structure for our thought processes, use positive questioning to get deeper understanding and see the small but powerful changes that accumulate to lead to our success.

How often do you get to the end of a working day and feel that you have achieved nothing?  I think most of us have been there at some time, but even on those days, if you took just ten minutes out (sitting in the car before you drive home, walking the dog, cleaning the goldfish bowl – whatever…..) and identified the smallest thing, the tiniest positive achievement for the day, I am sure there would be something.  It might not be something that you would see as directly relevant to your role, but think again.  When you showed someone a quick move on the computer (that you do without even thinking about it) – that could have a lasting benefit.  When you made that difficult call, but still didn’t reach the right person – at least you have started climbing that fearsome rockface.  When you answered the door for someone, even if they should have done it, it gave you a moment to let the blood back into your legs after sitting for hours at the computer.  If you set up the template for a new spreadsheet, but didn’t enter any data – well, it’s one thing less for tomorrow.  In those mundane examples we’ve covered well-being, support and encouragement shared learning, and action just for a start!  Don’t dismiss the small stuff, it just might be valuable.

So, when I sit down with you as your coach (for want of a better label!), we create SPACE.

First we set some ground rules.  One of these is that we recognise that this time is your time to do with as you choose.  It will not be interrupted, cancelled, driven by me, scripted, or disrespected. It is golden time, a rare oasis away from hustle and bustle. I will guide our conversation and challenge your thinking when necessary. I will hold you to account for your planned actions but most important of all, I will be facilitating your reflection and helping you to embed esoteric learning into practical actions and tools.

Go on – find your SPACE.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Praise Sandwich

By | Leadership Toolbox

We’ve all heard about this: how to give feedback.

I was always brought up to avoid food fights, (though school raspberry jelly was good for not much else), and recently I was the victim of just such a sandwich flung unceremoniously in my direction.

I wasn’t sure if this was feedback badly done, or whether I really was a complete disaster in the work I’d just completed.  In the cold light of a new day, and with my rational hat more firmly on my head, I am fairly sure that it was the former.  After all, I know that I can do my job, even if not always perfectly.

So, this got me thinking…..

Just why was I so aggravated by this horrible sandwich?  I think it comes down to something really simple: honesty.

We all know that trust and honesty are foundation stones in any relationship and tinkering with these building blocks is going to weaken the whole structure.  Don’t get me wrong – we should not be brutal, discourteous, thoughtless or undiplomatic in what we say, but there are ways of getting a message over and there are ways that messages really shouldn’t be delivered.

So, what is wrong with the ‘Praise Sandwich’?

First, the negative feedback, (criticism, or suggestion for change) can get lost in the crusts of the sandwich.  When the praise is too much, too gushing or focussing on major parts of a job or role, then this is what we will hear. The critical feedback will be a thin layer of sour jam that gets lost.  This is completely pointless and would certainly leave me wondering why I’m suddenly getting all this praise.  A bit is lovely, but lots of it?  Things that happen anyway, part of the job – why are they suddenly getting a mention?  I’m suspicious, confused. Was the criticism the important bit, or the praise? I’m wondering what the hidden agenda holds.  Oh, and by the way, was there something you wanted me to do differently?  Happy to try but I’m not really sure if it was OK or not….

Second; if the praise is thin, it will not be authentic. Any of us will see through that and head straight for the filling. There’s a double whammy here because not only am I going to be fed up that the job wasn’t right, but the giver of my feedback isn’t being honest.  They want to give me criticism but they are hiding it in something meaningless.  Why are they doing this? It will make little difference by now if the criticism is constructive or not; the damage to trust has already been done.

We don’t want to write our first novel and be praised for our handwriting on the cover letter. We don’t want to design an amazing new machine to be told it’s a nice colour. Get the idea?

So, next time you are giving feedback, think about this.  Identify the elements that really matter and allow for small differences. Respect the person getting the feedback, be kind but be clear. Be honest but positive.